you said that you are 'guo lai ren', if yes, you should know 'you xiu (outstanding?)' or not is not valid for 'fu qi (marriage)', or 'hun yin (marriage)'. We chineses have a proverb ' marriage is just to like a pair of shoes .......'. So I propose that you should not say who is 'you xiu' for 'jie hun'.
'要学会融入' is one of the most used word in the Chinese society in France or US, but do you think if we marry a French guy, we will integrate in this society? Do you think we have 融入 if we have been in presentation in the social activities of France? The answer is evident, NO!
We can never integrate in the society of Franch, because this is not country, not our culture, .......... no time to continue, ......... In summary, marrying a Chinese, it maybe a better choice for us to have a shelter in which we can .......